people 8-)

- i hate when people tag me in photos on facebook of stupid things like "happy holidays" or when they tag you in their own pictures. and i hate when people comment and are all like "thanks for the tag hun" "thanks hun" "so hot hun" "babe, you're hot". SHUT UP PEOPLE. i hate the people who tag everyone. "i'm gona kick your ass hun"

- i hate fingerprint marks on phone screens or glasses.

- when people keep flattering me or praising me to get their work done. i don't mind this. it's actually quite amusing. but sometimes, they get over the top with the praise.

- when people talk smack about other peoples children but they're blind when it comes to their own.

- when i see teeny boppers, high school girls doing stupid stuff to get a guys attention.

- when someone opens my things without asking me. it's irritating. i know i would never open someones stuff without asking them.

- boring movies. i hate them.

- unclean kitchens. especially, stove tops and counter tops.

- when someone coughs or sneezes during a meal and DOES NOT turn around. get out of here loser.

- when people wear clothes with huge stains on them. when i mean huge, i mean H U G E. not small. but HUGE. get rid of them you dirty.

- when someone gives me their opinion on something i'm doing or will do and i didn't even ask them to. keep your 2 cents to yourself idiot.

- when someone knows i know that they've talked shit about me and they still have the audacity to come to me and talk to me like everything's just fine. no, it's not fine. you know i know. get out of my face shit bag.

epitome of hate.

- i hate it when people claim to know what someone's going through. no, you don't. shut up. stop acting. until that person doesn't go through it on their own, they won't get it. it's a fact of life.
i understand when they sympathize and all, but when it gets to "yeah, i know how it feels", i just want to slap them.

- the thing that accumulates on tea when tea gets cold- when someone takes it and puts it on the side of their mug/cup & they just leave it there! i hate washing it off cause it gets all hard after wards and so annoying to wash off. i understand if my grandparents would leave it.

- when people talk shit about my family. i hate YOU a lot.

- the smell of tea or coffee when it gets cold.

- when i know i'm doing something wrong or stupid and people KEEP telling me about it. shut up. i don't want to know. keep your opinions to yourself.

- people who have NO problem causing problems between families and friends. i HATE people like this.

this is all i can think of for today.
toodles.

Unrequited Love

Shaykh Hamza Yusuf told one of the most beautiful stories on love, unrequited love and shifa during the RIS Knowledge Retreat (2008) in Toronto, Canada

Speaking of the generosity of ‘Aisha (Rd.) -

“… she also was very generous – Bareerah was a woman that ‘Aisha (Rd.) purchased and then set free, and the famous story about Bareerah was that she was married to someone named Mugheeth. Now if two slaves were married and then the woman was freed, then she can leave/divorce her husband if she wants to because now she’s free and the husband is not, so there is no parity between them.

So Bareerah wanted to leave Mugheeth, but Mugheeth loved her. He went into total distress, and he literally was walking behind her around Madina begging her to take him back.

Abbas (Rd.) was with the Prophet (saw) one day and they saw Bareerah and the Prophet (saw) said: “Isn’t it strange how much Mugheeth loves Bareerah and how much Bareerah dislikes Mugheeth?”

And the Ulema say when the Prophet (saw) said “Isn’t it strange”, the Arabs use the word “strange” only when the means/cause (sabaab, lit. ‘door’) of/to something is unknown – and that there is no need for something to be called “strange” if the cause is known.

So the Prophet (saw) was calling him to the point the strangeness of love. Love is very strange.

Why do people fall in love?

Why are our hearts are attracted to some people and not other people?

Why is love sometime unrequited (un-returned)?

Because the worst type of love is unrequited love: when you love somebody and they don’t love you – there is nothing worst than that in the world, unrequited love. And obviously the worst type of unrequited love is with God, because we want the Love of God. That’s why Abu’l-Hasan ash-Shadhili (teacher of Ibn ‘Ata’ Illah al-Iskandari ) use to say:

“Oh Allah -
make my wrong actions, the wrong actions of people whom You Love, and
don’t make my good actions, the good actions of people whom You do not Love.”

In other words – I would rather have wrong actions and be someone who You Love, than have good actions and be someone who You don’t Love.

So the Prophet (saw) went to Bareerah, who was the freed slave of ‘Aisha, and he said: “Won’t you reconsider Mugheeth?” And she said: “are you telling me to do this, because if you are telling me to, then I have to do it.” He (saw) replied: “I am only interceding on his behalf”.

And that’s his Shifa – ‘he finds it difficult things you find difficult’. The Prophet (saw) saw Mugheeth suffering and he wanted to help him. That shows you his shafaaqa, even in love he wanted to help this poor man who was suffering from the loss of his love.

So when the Prophet (saw) replied that he was only interceding, Bareerah replied: “I don’t have any need for him”. So there was something arrogant in her answer, as she was free and he was still a slave – there was something there from her nafs.
Now when Mugheeth saw that Bareerah rejected intercession from the one that even God had given intercession, Mugheeth suddenly lost all desire for her – it was just taken out of his heart.

And at that point when he lost all desire for Bareerah, suddenly she fell madly in love with him – like a punishment for rejecting the intercession of the Prophet (saw) – he did not want anything to do with her, yet she was now begging him to take her back now!”

SubhanAllah.

- Shaykh Hamza Yusuf,
RIS Knowledge Retreat 2008, Toronto, Canada

* taken from kuhlsnotes.wordpress.com

still hating.

- when someone is telling me something but stop telling it all of a sudden. or when they mention it and are like "never mind". SHUT UP. i want to know. why would you mention it then? this is so irritating. it gets me so curious and bothered.

- emotional blackmail is extremely irritating. yes, i love you but if i don't want to do something then don't blackmail me into doing it using emotions. (yes, i end up doing it. sad life)

- girls who dress unclean/dirty. i hate it. i see some students with stains on their clothes, fish smell coming from them, etc. ew. disgusting. and boys too obviously.

- dirty nails. okay, if you're going to keep them long- go ahead. just clean them. maintain them. nasty people.

- when people chew with their mouth open. i do not want to see you mince the meat in your mouth. or when people talk while chewing.

- when juice spills somewhere (tiles, desks, etc.) and no one bothers cleaning it until it gets sticky. clean it as SOON as it spills !!

- dust on bookshelves or edges of mirrors, etc.

- messy rooms. i understand when it's messy sometimes, etc. but ALL the time is gross. and when i mean messy, i mean when there's hair on the floor, dirty laundry everywhere, etc.

whenever i'm busy doing work, it's like i remember i have a blog. and it gives me a break from this sheeeyaaat. toodles.

i hate YOU. :)

there are times when i feel so depressed. or very emotional.
it's like all of a sudden my system crashes and i feel suffocated or something; it's so hard to explain. well, there are a series of events which eventually lead me to break down.
for example, someone not listening to me, or me not getting what i want might just trigger it and make me lose my sanity and i'll start crying non-stop.
it feels so good to let it out.
but i have no idea why i feel like this.
i felt like that a while back. fine now. but it has left a little effect. and i still feel it sometimes. it's so weird. i'm weird. everyone's weird. people = weird.
i just get carried away once i start.

anyways, on another note.
i hate a lot of things. i'm a hating kind of person. but not really. i love people.
me = sunshine. people = happiness. me + people = love.
(like i said, i get carried away..)

things i detest/dislike/hate:

- dirty feet or socks. why do people not wash their socks?! why do they walk around barefoot when the area's dirty? really pisses me off. and irritates me to no end.

- chapped lips. not exactly hate, because some people might have problems, etc. but it just bugs me. it's like when someone has a mole on their face which is so huge and you're trying not to look at it but your eyes just keep going back to the mole. yeah, that's how it is with chapped lips for me.

- unclean ears. there are things such as Q-TIPS. use them. this is annoying. and disgusting. i'd lose my appetite seeing it.

- talking about bathroom adventures, or anything related to it during a meal. really disgusting. i lose my appetite. when i'm not eating, it's just plain gross.

- when people tell me how to do something when i know exactly how to do it. like shut up, i don't want to know.

- body odor. yes, some people might have problems. but oh god, it's gross and sad. and it's really nasty. like unclean socks.

- clingy kids. the kind that are all like "me, me. pick me" etc etc. maybe my kids will be like that too? who knows. lol

- when people assume that just cause i act like i don't care about anything, or if i'm letting them say stuff to me without saying anything back, that they can just continue their crap with me. this is annoying. sometimes, people get too carried away. i have feelings too.

- when i find out some sexcapade (sex+escapade) about a person who i thought was so awesome or decent because that's the way they'd show themselves. i don't mean that i should catch them in the act of "intercourse" literally. i mean that when i find out something about them which i don't like. maybe i judge too quickly. maybe i shouldn't judge them at all based on their appearance. but i like to think the best of them and then i go and find out something they do. my hope in humanity literally shatters. (i'm too dramatic but yeah)

- boys who say crap about a girl to their friends, etc but when they're with said girl, they're all like "oh we're BFF's". shut up. i hate you loser.

- my boss. ahahhaahah. okay, i don't hate him. he just irritates me. and today i'm just annoyed so he made the list.

- it really bugs me when people are so comfortable when talking about other people's business. how can i trust you if you tell me shit about your good friend? (ya feel me?)

okay, i got to get back to doing my work.
this list is not even near done to be honest.
and it's not exactly hatred but i like to say hate because it seems like a decent term. or maybe bother, irritate, yada yada.