people 8-)

- i hate when people tag me in photos on facebook of stupid things like "happy holidays" or when they tag you in their own pictures. and i hate when people comment and are all like "thanks for the tag hun" "thanks hun" "so hot hun" "babe, you're hot". SHUT UP PEOPLE. i hate the people who tag everyone. "i'm gona kick your ass hun"

- i hate fingerprint marks on phone screens or glasses.

- when people keep flattering me or praising me to get their work done. i don't mind this. it's actually quite amusing. but sometimes, they get over the top with the praise.

- when people talk smack about other peoples children but they're blind when it comes to their own.

- when i see teeny boppers, high school girls doing stupid stuff to get a guys attention.

- when someone opens my things without asking me. it's irritating. i know i would never open someones stuff without asking them.

- boring movies. i hate them.

- unclean kitchens. especially, stove tops and counter tops.

- when someone coughs or sneezes during a meal and DOES NOT turn around. get out of here loser.

- when people wear clothes with huge stains on them. when i mean huge, i mean H U G E. not small. but HUGE. get rid of them you dirty.

- when someone gives me their opinion on something i'm doing or will do and i didn't even ask them to. keep your 2 cents to yourself idiot.

- when someone knows i know that they've talked shit about me and they still have the audacity to come to me and talk to me like everything's just fine. no, it's not fine. you know i know. get out of my face shit bag.

epitome of hate.

- i hate it when people claim to know what someone's going through. no, you don't. shut up. stop acting. until that person doesn't go through it on their own, they won't get it. it's a fact of life.
i understand when they sympathize and all, but when it gets to "yeah, i know how it feels", i just want to slap them.

- the thing that accumulates on tea when tea gets cold- when someone takes it and puts it on the side of their mug/cup & they just leave it there! i hate washing it off cause it gets all hard after wards and so annoying to wash off. i understand if my grandparents would leave it.

- when people talk shit about my family. i hate YOU a lot.

- the smell of tea or coffee when it gets cold.

- when i know i'm doing something wrong or stupid and people KEEP telling me about it. shut up. i don't want to know. keep your opinions to yourself.

- people who have NO problem causing problems between families and friends. i HATE people like this.

this is all i can think of for today.
toodles.

Unrequited Love

Shaykh Hamza Yusuf told one of the most beautiful stories on love, unrequited love and shifa during the RIS Knowledge Retreat (2008) in Toronto, Canada

Speaking of the generosity of ‘Aisha (Rd.) -

“… she also was very generous – Bareerah was a woman that ‘Aisha (Rd.) purchased and then set free, and the famous story about Bareerah was that she was married to someone named Mugheeth. Now if two slaves were married and then the woman was freed, then she can leave/divorce her husband if she wants to because now she’s free and the husband is not, so there is no parity between them.

So Bareerah wanted to leave Mugheeth, but Mugheeth loved her. He went into total distress, and he literally was walking behind her around Madina begging her to take him back.

Abbas (Rd.) was with the Prophet (saw) one day and they saw Bareerah and the Prophet (saw) said: “Isn’t it strange how much Mugheeth loves Bareerah and how much Bareerah dislikes Mugheeth?”

And the Ulema say when the Prophet (saw) said “Isn’t it strange”, the Arabs use the word “strange” only when the means/cause (sabaab, lit. ‘door’) of/to something is unknown – and that there is no need for something to be called “strange” if the cause is known.

So the Prophet (saw) was calling him to the point the strangeness of love. Love is very strange.

Why do people fall in love?

Why are our hearts are attracted to some people and not other people?

Why is love sometime unrequited (un-returned)?

Because the worst type of love is unrequited love: when you love somebody and they don’t love you – there is nothing worst than that in the world, unrequited love. And obviously the worst type of unrequited love is with God, because we want the Love of God. That’s why Abu’l-Hasan ash-Shadhili (teacher of Ibn ‘Ata’ Illah al-Iskandari ) use to say:

“Oh Allah -
make my wrong actions, the wrong actions of people whom You Love, and
don’t make my good actions, the good actions of people whom You do not Love.”

In other words – I would rather have wrong actions and be someone who You Love, than have good actions and be someone who You don’t Love.

So the Prophet (saw) went to Bareerah, who was the freed slave of ‘Aisha, and he said: “Won’t you reconsider Mugheeth?” And she said: “are you telling me to do this, because if you are telling me to, then I have to do it.” He (saw) replied: “I am only interceding on his behalf”.

And that’s his Shifa – ‘he finds it difficult things you find difficult’. The Prophet (saw) saw Mugheeth suffering and he wanted to help him. That shows you his shafaaqa, even in love he wanted to help this poor man who was suffering from the loss of his love.

So when the Prophet (saw) replied that he was only interceding, Bareerah replied: “I don’t have any need for him”. So there was something arrogant in her answer, as she was free and he was still a slave – there was something there from her nafs.
Now when Mugheeth saw that Bareerah rejected intercession from the one that even God had given intercession, Mugheeth suddenly lost all desire for her – it was just taken out of his heart.

And at that point when he lost all desire for Bareerah, suddenly she fell madly in love with him – like a punishment for rejecting the intercession of the Prophet (saw) – he did not want anything to do with her, yet she was now begging him to take her back now!”

SubhanAllah.

- Shaykh Hamza Yusuf,
RIS Knowledge Retreat 2008, Toronto, Canada

* taken from kuhlsnotes.wordpress.com

still hating.

- when someone is telling me something but stop telling it all of a sudden. or when they mention it and are like "never mind". SHUT UP. i want to know. why would you mention it then? this is so irritating. it gets me so curious and bothered.

- emotional blackmail is extremely irritating. yes, i love you but if i don't want to do something then don't blackmail me into doing it using emotions. (yes, i end up doing it. sad life)

- girls who dress unclean/dirty. i hate it. i see some students with stains on their clothes, fish smell coming from them, etc. ew. disgusting. and boys too obviously.

- dirty nails. okay, if you're going to keep them long- go ahead. just clean them. maintain them. nasty people.

- when people chew with their mouth open. i do not want to see you mince the meat in your mouth. or when people talk while chewing.

- when juice spills somewhere (tiles, desks, etc.) and no one bothers cleaning it until it gets sticky. clean it as SOON as it spills !!

- dust on bookshelves or edges of mirrors, etc.

- messy rooms. i understand when it's messy sometimes, etc. but ALL the time is gross. and when i mean messy, i mean when there's hair on the floor, dirty laundry everywhere, etc.

whenever i'm busy doing work, it's like i remember i have a blog. and it gives me a break from this sheeeyaaat. toodles.

i hate YOU. :)

there are times when i feel so depressed. or very emotional.
it's like all of a sudden my system crashes and i feel suffocated or something; it's so hard to explain. well, there are a series of events which eventually lead me to break down.
for example, someone not listening to me, or me not getting what i want might just trigger it and make me lose my sanity and i'll start crying non-stop.
it feels so good to let it out.
but i have no idea why i feel like this.
i felt like that a while back. fine now. but it has left a little effect. and i still feel it sometimes. it's so weird. i'm weird. everyone's weird. people = weird.
i just get carried away once i start.

anyways, on another note.
i hate a lot of things. i'm a hating kind of person. but not really. i love people.
me = sunshine. people = happiness. me + people = love.
(like i said, i get carried away..)

things i detest/dislike/hate:

- dirty feet or socks. why do people not wash their socks?! why do they walk around barefoot when the area's dirty? really pisses me off. and irritates me to no end.

- chapped lips. not exactly hate, because some people might have problems, etc. but it just bugs me. it's like when someone has a mole on their face which is so huge and you're trying not to look at it but your eyes just keep going back to the mole. yeah, that's how it is with chapped lips for me.

- unclean ears. there are things such as Q-TIPS. use them. this is annoying. and disgusting. i'd lose my appetite seeing it.

- talking about bathroom adventures, or anything related to it during a meal. really disgusting. i lose my appetite. when i'm not eating, it's just plain gross.

- when people tell me how to do something when i know exactly how to do it. like shut up, i don't want to know.

- body odor. yes, some people might have problems. but oh god, it's gross and sad. and it's really nasty. like unclean socks.

- clingy kids. the kind that are all like "me, me. pick me" etc etc. maybe my kids will be like that too? who knows. lol

- when people assume that just cause i act like i don't care about anything, or if i'm letting them say stuff to me without saying anything back, that they can just continue their crap with me. this is annoying. sometimes, people get too carried away. i have feelings too.

- when i find out some sexcapade (sex+escapade) about a person who i thought was so awesome or decent because that's the way they'd show themselves. i don't mean that i should catch them in the act of "intercourse" literally. i mean that when i find out something about them which i don't like. maybe i judge too quickly. maybe i shouldn't judge them at all based on their appearance. but i like to think the best of them and then i go and find out something they do. my hope in humanity literally shatters. (i'm too dramatic but yeah)

- boys who say crap about a girl to their friends, etc but when they're with said girl, they're all like "oh we're BFF's". shut up. i hate you loser.

- my boss. ahahhaahah. okay, i don't hate him. he just irritates me. and today i'm just annoyed so he made the list.

- it really bugs me when people are so comfortable when talking about other people's business. how can i trust you if you tell me shit about your good friend? (ya feel me?)

okay, i got to get back to doing my work.
this list is not even near done to be honest.
and it's not exactly hatred but i like to say hate because it seems like a decent term. or maybe bother, irritate, yada yada.

& the quote says it all..

“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”

-Audrey Hepburn

as for the picture, j'adore tiffany & co. <3

Aakhri Din (Last Day)- Day Ten

* One person you can trust:

1. My Mom

Advices

"Excel in ilm (knowledge), excel in amal (actions), and excel in taqwa (piety). And then see how much honour Allah Ta’ala grants you in this very world as well as the hereafter."

“Hell is hidden by the carnal desires and paradise is hidden by hardships.” (Hadith)

"If one were to interact with a non-mahram and nothing was to happen besides the entertainment of a lustful thought, then even in this situation sin has occurred.
For the adultery of the mind is the lustful thought. And it is the constant and deliberate holding of such thoughts that eventually leads one to fornication and adultery in its full form.”

"People complain that we can’t find good company. Well, if
you can’t find pious company then at least stay away from the company of those
who are not pious." (Sheikh Maseehullah)

“It is a ploy of Shaytaan that a religious person weighs his present life with his past life. If he does so, he will think himself to be a saint.”

Rasulullah (saw) said: "Whoever humbles himself for the sake of Allah, Allah raises him [in rank], and whoever is arrogant, Allah degrades him." (Bayhaqi)

We are neither able to appreciate the good qualities of others, nor are we able to recognise our own faults.

The first effect of sin is that one is deprived of tranquillity and serenity in his life.

(Credits: shaykh.wordpress.com)

De Nueve Dias (Day Nine)

* Two things you wish you could do

(First, I was thinking of things which are impossible to do, like: reading people's minds or becoming invisible, but then I thought that I should write something which I actually wish to do in reality)

1. Bake

2. Be artistic

Die Octo (Day Eight)

* Three words that you can't go a day without using

1. Basically

2. Anyways

3. Oh my god

Always Complainin'

We humans are very ungrateful creatures. It's true what Allah says in the Quran: "Kaanal Insaanu Kafoora" (Indeed, man is ungrateful). I know I am.
It's like we always have to complain about something or the other. Either lack of sleep (this I'm doing all the time), lack of heat (when it gets too cold), lack of AC (when it gets too hot), lack of food, lack of fun ("oh no, another boring day at home..great!"), lack of energy, yada yada. You get the point. Instead of complaining, we should use our time wisely.
We can never just be thankful for anything. Yes, we listen to lectures and all and our spiritual side all of a sudden "awakens" and "sees the light" but then.. the light goes dim. Maybe the batteries ran out? Who knows.
We are never satisfied with what we have. We always want more of it. If not more, then we want less. We never take out the time to thank our Lord that he even let us see another day. He gave us another day to fix ourselves, to "wake up and see the light". But we don't realize that. We live everyday as if we're going to wake up the next morning just fine. What if we don't? What if tonight is the last night? There are so many "What If's?". We know this too and yet, we don't do anything about it. It's like we're momentarily blinded.
To be thankful to our Lord, the only thing he asks of us is to atleast perfom two rakats of Salat Shukr (Prayer of Thanks). It comes in a hadith that "Man has 365 joints that Allah has given him and to show his thankfulness, two rakats of Salah is enough for all of that" (something along the lines of this).
So would it really hurt us to actually take time out of our "busy" schedules and perform two rakats of Salah? I don't think so.
I hope that I can atleast start doing that. If we don't start off sincere, and we just do it for the sake of doing it, it's better than not doing it at all.
But first of all, performing our 5 times Salah is most important.
We take it very lightly. But on the Day of Judgment; the day when we'll be drowning in our own sweat according to our bad deeds, the day when the sun is going to be above our heads, the day when there'll be no shade except Allah's shade; On that day, the first question that will be asked will be of Salah. Will we be ready? I know I'm not. It's a scary thought.
I pray to Allah that he gives us the ability to remain steadfast on our Deen and that he shades us in his shade on the day when there will be no shade except his.
I'm no scholar or preacher and whatever I say goes to me first.

Dia Siete (Day Seven)

* Four memories you won't forget

1. Grade 8 Graduation (it wasn't the graduating that I remember but all the fun I had that day)

2. When my mom's dad passed away

3. When my dad's dad got sick (thinking about it still brings tears to my eyes; he was one of the most strongest people I knew. He was in all true sense "a jolly good fellow")

4. The day I met two very important people in my life (it all started with cheese strings..) & also when I met the third most important person in my life (it all started when she moved her clothes to my closet..) - p.s: I love you guys <3

one of THOSE days..

It's gloomy out. I have so much to do but I'm procrastinating.
I need to go shopping, but to be honest, I'd rather just sit at home in my bed on the laptop and have ferrero rocher. La Dolce Vita.
Speaking of laptops, I really need to buy one. I want a purple one.
Dell has some nice purple ones. But I don't like their laptops. I like the Sony Vaio which I'd like to get; in white.
Anyways, I'm just having one of THOSE days. The kind where you want to stay in PJ's, curl up in bed with a good book or watch a sappy movie. You know, one of THOSE days <3. I love THOSE kind of days. Actually, to be honest- I'm always having THOSE kind of days. *sigh
Having said that, I will now continue being my bum-self.
Ciao.

De Seis Dias (Day Six)

* Five things that you can't live without

1. Water (it IS a necessity)
2. Lotion
3. My phone
4. Clothes
5. My family

and it is only with the heart that one can truly see..

<3

"Love sometimes wants to do us a great favour: hold us upside down and shake all the nonsense out"

"Stay close to any sounds that make you glad and alive"

"We are

People who need to love, because

Love is the soul's life"

"Love is simply creation's greatest joy"

"This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you"

-Hafiz

"Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love"

"Close both eyes to see with the other eye"

"We come spinning out of nothingness, scattering stars like dust"

"Let the beauty of what you love be what you do"

"The real beloved is your beginning and your end. When you find that one, you'll no longer expect anything else"

"To Love is to reach God"

-Rumi

Le Jour Cinq (Day Five)

* Six songs that you're addicted to

(what I used to listen to)

1. Real Love (Massari)

2. Perfect (Simple Plan)

3. Halo (Beyonce)

4. Umbrella (Rihanna)

5. Complicated (Avril Lavigne)

6. My heart will go on (Celine Dion) - used to LOVE this one

Dia Cuatro (Day Four)

* Seven fears/phobias

1. Animals (even birds)

2. That I'm going to wake up one day and someone's going to be looking down on me

3. If I look out my window, someone's going to be there to kill me or kidnap me or something (especially if it's one of those eerie nights)

4. Driving next to a truck

5. Driving on the side of the road (I prefer the middle and I hate that we have to "keep right" on the road, especially if there's a ditch or something to the right)

6. Getting paralyzed

7. Losing a loved one

Die Tria (Day Three)

* Eight things that annoy you

1. When lights are left on after leaving a room

2. Dirty socks

3. When people drag their pants on the floor (with which they could probably sweep up the area)

4. Clothes that have wrinkles/creases on them

5. Dirty nails

6. When I'm checking my phone/on the computer/reading a book and people hover around me/try to look

7. When someone snatches something from my hand

8. When people argue with me and I know I'm right about it but the person will KEEP going on about how they're right. That really annoys me.

Deux Jours (Day Two)

First of all: EID MUBARAK

Even though we do nothing special on Eid, just the fact that it's Eid gets me all excited and I look forward to a day of doing nothing.

But today, I know it will be good.

_______________________________________________________________

* Nine things you do everyday

1. Complain about waking up early and being sleepy/tired the whole day and yet, I sleep late every night

2. Listen to 680 News

3. Text

4. YouTube weddings/mehndis

5. Shower

6. Go on facebook

7. See my grandparents

8. Say I'm going to book my driving test

9. Say that I'm going to help my mom in the kitchen

Un Dia (Day One)

* Ten random facts about yourself

1. I love chocolate
2. I will buy stuff without looking at it properly (for instance, once I bought a pair of flats and when I got home, i saw that they were both for the left foot)
3. I am a sap at heart
4. I enjoy reading
5. I adore cleaning. Once I start, I can't stop.
6. I dislike people
7. I like to have things just for the sake of having it
8. Only I can talk smack about my family/friends. I hate when other people do.
9. I have to go on facebook atleast three times a day
10. I love the smell of brand new things

Ten Day Challenge

Ten Day Challenge

(i guess this is the sort of stuff bloggers do..)

1. Ten random facts about yourself

2. Nine things you do everyday

3. Eight things that annoy you

4. Seven fears/phobias

5. Six songs that you're addicted to

6. Five things that you can't live without

7. Four memories you won't forget

8. Three words you can't go a day without using

9. Two things you wish you could do

10. One person you trust

sometimes..

sometimes, you build great bonds that grow thicker as time goes by. sometimes, you meet new people, make new friends, and things are just never the same anymore. it's the little things in life that bring a smile to your face. sometimes, you wonder if you're the luckiest person there is and sometimes, you feel as though you're the most unluckiest person there is.

life is life. it goes on. and no one is really prepared for what's to come.

i read a book today titled, "enjoy your life" - that's true, we should. don't dwell in the past. don't cry over spilt milk, yada yada.

so in this book, i came across this:

"replace the frown on your face with a smile,

depression with cheerfulness,

miserliness with generosity,

anger with perseverance"

i end my first post with the most cliched quote ever: "everyday is a gift, that's why we call it the present"